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<\/a><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/h2>\nContents:<\/h2>\n\n- Face your fear: the causes of maternal anxiety<\/a><\/li>\n
- What is the danger behind constant anxiety for a child?<\/a>\n
\n- What awaits an anxious mother?<\/a><\/li>\n
- And what awaits the child?<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n
- Dealing with anxiety: the advice of a specialist<\/a>\n
\n- How to become a good and calm mother?<\/a><\/li>\n
- An ideal mother: who is she?<\/a><\/li>\n
- Daily rules and habits of a good mother<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Face your fear: the causes of maternal anxiety<\/h2>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/cdn-blog.findmykids.org\/2019\/12\/Materinskie-perezhivaniya-1024x683.jpg\")
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When a woman is expecting a child, she is surrounded by care and attention from her loved ones. She feels important and needed. But when the baby is born, everything changes dramatically. The needs of the baby are put first, and the woman forgets about herself: she faces a lack of time to eat, sleep and bathe. She spends most of her time alone with her child, allowing her husband to earn money.<\/p>\n
And it is not surprising that mothers, especially young ones, accumulate fatigue and frustration. They begin to lose their temper on their child and husband, and then to experience remorse for being a bad mother. This pattern forms an alarmingly strong basis for anxiety and fear.<\/p>\n
The fears that most mothers experience:<\/p>\n
\n- fear for the life and health of her child, fear of losing him;<\/li>\n
- fear of accidentally harming a child;<\/li>\n
- fear of being a bad mother, both in the eyes of the child and of others;<\/li>\n
- fear of being judged by more experienced mothers;<\/li>\n
- fear of being socially isolated due to long maternity leave;<\/li>\n
- fear of worsening the relationship with her husband.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Excessive anxiety for the child is also heightened by such phenomena of our modern life as:<\/p>\n
\n- the high crime rate, frequent cases of child abduction;<\/li>\n
- the popularity of drugs, alcohol, and smoking amongst young individuals as well as an early start of sexual relations;<\/li>\n
- the wide availability of any type of information and video content on the Internet;<\/li>\n
- the emerging of \u00abdeath clubs\u00bb and \u00absuicidal sects\u00bb on social media.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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Therefore, the worried mother starts to control every step and every breath of her child, trying to always be with him: firstly at home, then in the kindergarten and school, all of this whilst depriving herself and her family of living a normal, complete life.<\/p>\n
Dear Mommies, remember! The feeling of distress for a child is one of the key components of the maternal instinct. All mothers worry about their children and seek to protect them from the dangers in the world.<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t have to fight your fears, you need to accept them (to admit that \u00abYes, I do worry about my child, but I cannot be constantly restricting and prohibiting\u00bb), and to understand the underlying reasons (to say to yourself: \u00abMy worry can be explained: this is my first child, and I am scared to turn out to be a bad mother\u00bb). This way, these fears will be easier to overcome.<\/p>\n
It is important to distinguish between the normal worry for the child and the neurotic, obsessive anxiety for the life and health of the child that negatively affects the whole family.<\/p>\n
The ones more prone to become affected by neurotic anxiety are:<\/p>\n
\n- mothers who equate the birth of a child to the meaning of their life;<\/li>\n
- women who have experienced the death of a child or a close relative;<\/li>\n
- women who have had complicated labor or have had their baby\u2019s life at risk in the first months of their life.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
If you feel that the anxiety for your child has reached an alarming point, your nervous breakdowns occur more and more frequently, and motherhood is no longer a source of positive emotions for you, you need to contact a specialist as soon as possible.<\/p>\n
What is the danger behind constant anxiety for a child?<\/h2>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/cdn-blog.findmykids.org\/2019\/12\/the-offence-2048413_1280-1024x682.jpg\")
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Now let’s talk about the consequences of constant fear and anxiety for your child.<\/p>\n
What awaits an anxious mother?<\/h3>\n
Living in constant anxiety and stress negatively affects the physical and mental health of the mother. Chronic diseases become aggravated. Coupled with depression, irritability, and nervous breakdowns, these can even lead to suicidal thoughts in worst-case scenarios.\u2800<\/p>\n
In March 2013, a mother in her 40s jumped out of the window from her apartment on the 8th floor, in New York, holding her newborn child after having developed postpartum depression and becoming obsessed with the idea of having caused irrevocable brain damage to her child. The woman, who has built a successful career as a lawyer and worked at the State Supreme Court, has left a 13-page handwritten note in which she agonized about not being able to live with knowing that her child will suffer for multiple reasons during his life.<\/div>\n\u2800<\/p>\n
An anxious mother stops seeing her friends and refrains from visiting relatives. Social and friendly relationships become destroyed. This way, the mother finds herself isolated from society.<\/p>\n
The relationship with the husband can also become damaged. As the child becomes the center of the attention of a woman\u2019s world, the husband may not be receiving enough love, care, and attention from his wife. What kind of solution does the man have in this situation? Either concentrating on work thus making the family a second priority, or breaking down family bonds in the hope of receiving love and attention from another person.<\/p>\n
And what awaits the child?<\/h3>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/cdn-blog.findmykids.org\/2019\/10\/isterika-1024x683.jpg\")
Prostock-studio\/Shutterstock.com<\/p><\/div>\n
If the girl grew up in an atmosphere of constant restrictions and prohibitions associated with the increased anxiety of her mother, then most likely she will also raise her children this way. This is due to the fact that a formed stereotype of the mother\u2019s behavior emerges, the one that she has been constantly witnessed in her family.<\/p>\n
If the mother is continuously saying how dangerous the world is and what bad people live in it, it is expected for the child to start suffering from neurosis very quickly.<\/p>\n
Increased maternal anxiety can lead to a slowdown in the physical and mental development of the child.<\/p>\n
Constant prohibitions of physical activity under the pretext \u00abdo not climb this hill \u2013 you will fall off\u00bb, prevent the essential physical features from developing. Clothes that are too warm, excessive monitoring of room temperature and water temperature weaken the child’s natural immunity. The vetoing of meetings with friends deemed as \u00abbad\u00bb by the mother, destroy the patterns of social interactions of the child and do not foster the development of his communication skills.<\/p>\n
An overly \u2018cared for\u2019 child may become ridiculed and bullied by his peers. This will result in a lowering of self-esteem, the development of preoccupations, seclusion, and self-doubt.<\/p>\n
In most cases, children, having grown up and escaped from parental care, seek to catch up with what they constantly have been limited in: they start trying out illegal substances, hanging out with \u2018bad guys\u2019 and so on. They may even get married at an early age, solely to escape from their parents. Unfortunately, not all of these stories have a happy ending.<\/p>\n
<\/a><\/td>\n<\/a><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/h2>\nContents:<\/h2>\n\n- Face your fear: the causes of maternal anxiety<\/a><\/li>\n
- What is the danger behind constant anxiety for a child?<\/a>\n
\n- What awaits an anxious mother?<\/a><\/li>\n
- And what awaits the child?<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n
- Dealing with anxiety: the advice of a specialist<\/a>\n
\n- How to become a good and calm mother?<\/a><\/li>\n
- An ideal mother: who is she?<\/a><\/li>\n
- Daily rules and habits of a good mother<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Face your fear: the causes of maternal anxiety<\/h2>\nProstock-studio\/Shutterstock.com<\/p><\/div>\n
When a woman is expecting a child, she is surrounded by care and attention from her loved ones. She feels important and needed. But when the baby is born, everything changes dramatically. The needs of the baby are put first, and the woman forgets about herself: she faces a lack of time to eat, sleep and bathe. She spends most of her time alone with her child, allowing her husband to earn money.<\/p>\n
And it is not surprising that mothers, especially young ones, accumulate fatigue and frustration. They begin to lose their temper on their child and husband, and then to experience remorse for being a bad mother. This pattern forms an alarmingly strong basis for anxiety and fear.<\/p>\n
The fears that most mothers experience:<\/p>\n
\n- fear for the life and health of her child, fear of losing him;<\/li>\n
- fear of accidentally harming a child;<\/li>\n
- fear of being a bad mother, both in the eyes of the child and of others;<\/li>\n
- fear of being judged by more experienced mothers;<\/li>\n
- fear of being socially isolated due to long maternity leave;<\/li>\n
- fear of worsening the relationship with her husband.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Excessive anxiety for the child is also heightened by such phenomena of our modern life as:<\/p>\n
\n- the high crime rate, frequent cases of child abduction;<\/li>\n
- the popularity of drugs, alcohol, and smoking amongst young individuals as well as an early start of sexual relations;<\/li>\n
- the wide availability of any type of information and video content on the Internet;<\/li>\n
- the emerging of \u00abdeath clubs\u00bb and \u00absuicidal sects\u00bb on social media.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Prostock-studio\/Shutterstock.com<\/p><\/div>\n
Therefore, the worried mother starts to control every step and every breath of her child, trying to always be with him: firstly at home, then in the kindergarten and school, all of this whilst depriving herself and her family of living a normal, complete life.<\/p>\n
Dear Mommies, remember! The feeling of distress for a child is one of the key components of the maternal instinct. All mothers worry about their children and seek to protect them from the dangers in the world.<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t have to fight your fears, you need to accept them (to admit that \u00abYes, I do worry about my child, but I cannot be constantly restricting and prohibiting\u00bb), and to understand the underlying reasons (to say to yourself: \u00abMy worry can be explained: this is my first child, and I am scared to turn out to be a bad mother\u00bb). This way, these fears will be easier to overcome.<\/p>\n
It is important to distinguish between the normal worry for the child and the neurotic, obsessive anxiety for the life and health of the child that negatively affects the whole family.<\/p>\n
The ones more prone to become affected by neurotic anxiety are:<\/p>\n
\n- mothers who equate the birth of a child to the meaning of their life;<\/li>\n
- women who have experienced the death of a child or a close relative;<\/li>\n
- women who have had complicated labor or have had their baby\u2019s life at risk in the first months of their life.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
If you feel that the anxiety for your child has reached an alarming point, your nervous breakdowns occur more and more frequently, and motherhood is no longer a source of positive emotions for you, you need to contact a specialist as soon as possible.<\/p>\n
What is the danger behind constant anxiety for a child?<\/h2>\nProstock-studio\/Shutterstock.com<\/p><\/div>\n
Now let’s talk about the consequences of constant fear and anxiety for your child.<\/p>\n
What awaits an anxious mother?<\/h3>\n
Living in constant anxiety and stress negatively affects the physical and mental health of the mother. Chronic diseases become aggravated. Coupled with depression, irritability, and nervous breakdowns, these can even lead to suicidal thoughts in worst-case scenarios.\u2800<\/p>\n
In March 2013, a mother in her 40s jumped out of the window from her apartment on the 8th floor, in New York, holding her newborn child after having developed postpartum depression and becoming obsessed with the idea of having caused irrevocable brain damage to her child. The woman, who has built a successful career as a lawyer and worked at the State Supreme Court, has left a 13-page handwritten note in which she agonized about not being able to live with knowing that her child will suffer for multiple reasons during his life.<\/div>\n\u2800<\/p>\n
An anxious mother stops seeing her friends and refrains from visiting relatives. Social and friendly relationships become destroyed. This way, the mother finds herself isolated from society.<\/p>\n
The relationship with the husband can also become damaged. As the child becomes the center of the attention of a woman\u2019s world, the husband may not be receiving enough love, care, and attention from his wife. What kind of solution does the man have in this situation? Either concentrating on work thus making the family a second priority, or breaking down family bonds in the hope of receiving love and attention from another person.<\/p>\n
And what awaits the child?<\/h3>\nProstock-studio\/Shutterstock.com<\/p><\/div>\n
If the girl grew up in an atmosphere of constant restrictions and prohibitions associated with the increased anxiety of her mother, then most likely she will also raise her children this way. This is due to the fact that a formed stereotype of the mother\u2019s behavior emerges, the one that she has been constantly witnessed in her family.<\/p>\n
If the mother is continuously saying how dangerous the world is and what bad people live in it, it is expected for the child to start suffering from neurosis very quickly.<\/p>\n
Increased maternal anxiety can lead to a slowdown in the physical and mental development of the child.<\/p>\n
Constant prohibitions of physical activity under the pretext \u00abdo not climb this hill \u2013 you will fall off\u00bb, prevent the essential physical features from developing. Clothes that are too warm, excessive monitoring of room temperature and water temperature weaken the child’s natural immunity. The vetoing of meetings with friends deemed as \u00abbad\u00bb by the mother, destroy the patterns of social interactions of the child and do not foster the development of his communication skills.<\/p>\n
An overly \u2018cared for\u2019 child may become ridiculed and bullied by his peers. This will result in a lowering of self-esteem, the development of preoccupations, seclusion, and self-doubt.<\/p>\n
In most cases, children, having grown up and escaped from parental care, seek to catch up with what they constantly have been limited in: they start trying out illegal substances, hanging out with \u2018bad guys\u2019 and so on. They may even get married at an early age, solely to escape from their parents. Unfortunately, not all of these stories have a happy ending.<\/p>\n
- \n
- Face your fear: the causes of maternal anxiety<\/a><\/li>\n
- What is the danger behind constant anxiety for a child?<\/a>\n
- \n
- What awaits an anxious mother?<\/a><\/li>\n
- And what awaits the child?<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n
- Dealing with anxiety: the advice of a specialist<\/a>\n
- \n
- How to become a good and calm mother?<\/a><\/li>\n
- An ideal mother: who is she?<\/a><\/li>\n
- Daily rules and habits of a good mother<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Face your fear: the causes of maternal anxiety<\/h2>\n
Prostock-studio\/Shutterstock.com<\/p><\/div>\n
When a woman is expecting a child, she is surrounded by care and attention from her loved ones. She feels important and needed. But when the baby is born, everything changes dramatically. The needs of the baby are put first, and the woman forgets about herself: she faces a lack of time to eat, sleep and bathe. She spends most of her time alone with her child, allowing her husband to earn money.<\/p>\n
And it is not surprising that mothers, especially young ones, accumulate fatigue and frustration. They begin to lose their temper on their child and husband, and then to experience remorse for being a bad mother. This pattern forms an alarmingly strong basis for anxiety and fear.<\/p>\n
The fears that most mothers experience:<\/p>\n
- \n
- fear for the life and health of her child, fear of losing him;<\/li>\n
- fear of accidentally harming a child;<\/li>\n
- fear of being a bad mother, both in the eyes of the child and of others;<\/li>\n
- fear of being judged by more experienced mothers;<\/li>\n
- fear of being socially isolated due to long maternity leave;<\/li>\n
- fear of worsening the relationship with her husband.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Excessive anxiety for the child is also heightened by such phenomena of our modern life as:<\/p>\n
- \n
- the high crime rate, frequent cases of child abduction;<\/li>\n
- the popularity of drugs, alcohol, and smoking amongst young individuals as well as an early start of sexual relations;<\/li>\n
- the wide availability of any type of information and video content on the Internet;<\/li>\n
- the emerging of \u00abdeath clubs\u00bb and \u00absuicidal sects\u00bb on social media.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Prostock-studio\/Shutterstock.com<\/p><\/div>\n
Therefore, the worried mother starts to control every step and every breath of her child, trying to always be with him: firstly at home, then in the kindergarten and school, all of this whilst depriving herself and her family of living a normal, complete life.<\/p>\n
Dear Mommies, remember! The feeling of distress for a child is one of the key components of the maternal instinct. All mothers worry about their children and seek to protect them from the dangers in the world.<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t have to fight your fears, you need to accept them (to admit that \u00abYes, I do worry about my child, but I cannot be constantly restricting and prohibiting\u00bb), and to understand the underlying reasons (to say to yourself: \u00abMy worry can be explained: this is my first child, and I am scared to turn out to be a bad mother\u00bb). This way, these fears will be easier to overcome.<\/p>\n
It is important to distinguish between the normal worry for the child and the neurotic, obsessive anxiety for the life and health of the child that negatively affects the whole family.<\/p>\n
The ones more prone to become affected by neurotic anxiety are:<\/p>\n
- \n
- mothers who equate the birth of a child to the meaning of their life;<\/li>\n
- women who have experienced the death of a child or a close relative;<\/li>\n
- women who have had complicated labor or have had their baby\u2019s life at risk in the first months of their life.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
If you feel that the anxiety for your child has reached an alarming point, your nervous breakdowns occur more and more frequently, and motherhood is no longer a source of positive emotions for you, you need to contact a specialist as soon as possible.<\/p>\n
What is the danger behind constant anxiety for a child?<\/h2>\n
Prostock-studio\/Shutterstock.com<\/p><\/div>\n
Now let’s talk about the consequences of constant fear and anxiety for your child.<\/p>\n
What awaits an anxious mother?<\/h3>\n
Living in constant anxiety and stress negatively affects the physical and mental health of the mother. Chronic diseases become aggravated. Coupled with depression, irritability, and nervous breakdowns, these can even lead to suicidal thoughts in worst-case scenarios.\u2800<\/p>\n
In March 2013, a mother in her 40s jumped out of the window from her apartment on the 8th floor, in New York, holding her newborn child after having developed postpartum depression and becoming obsessed with the idea of having caused irrevocable brain damage to her child. The woman, who has built a successful career as a lawyer and worked at the State Supreme Court, has left a 13-page handwritten note in which she agonized about not being able to live with knowing that her child will suffer for multiple reasons during his life.<\/div>\n\u2800<\/p>\n
An anxious mother stops seeing her friends and refrains from visiting relatives. Social and friendly relationships become destroyed. This way, the mother finds herself isolated from society.<\/p>\n
The relationship with the husband can also become damaged. As the child becomes the center of the attention of a woman\u2019s world, the husband may not be receiving enough love, care, and attention from his wife. What kind of solution does the man have in this situation? Either concentrating on work thus making the family a second priority, or breaking down family bonds in the hope of receiving love and attention from another person.<\/p>\n
And what awaits the child?<\/h3>\n
Prostock-studio\/Shutterstock.com<\/p><\/div>\n
If the girl grew up in an atmosphere of constant restrictions and prohibitions associated with the increased anxiety of her mother, then most likely she will also raise her children this way. This is due to the fact that a formed stereotype of the mother\u2019s behavior emerges, the one that she has been constantly witnessed in her family.<\/p>\n
If the mother is continuously saying how dangerous the world is and what bad people live in it, it is expected for the child to start suffering from neurosis very quickly.<\/p>\n
Increased maternal anxiety can lead to a slowdown in the physical and mental development of the child.<\/p>\n
Constant prohibitions of physical activity under the pretext \u00abdo not climb this hill \u2013 you will fall off\u00bb, prevent the essential physical features from developing. Clothes that are too warm, excessive monitoring of room temperature and water temperature weaken the child’s natural immunity. The vetoing of meetings with friends deemed as \u00abbad\u00bb by the mother, destroy the patterns of social interactions of the child and do not foster the development of his communication skills.<\/p>\n
An overly \u2018cared for\u2019 child may become ridiculed and bullied by his peers. This will result in a lowering of self-esteem, the development of preoccupations, seclusion, and self-doubt.<\/p>\n
In most cases, children, having grown up and escaped from parental care, seek to catch up with what they constantly have been limited in: they start trying out illegal substances, hanging out with \u2018bad guys\u2019 and so on. They may even get married at an early age, solely to escape from their parents. Unfortunately, not all of these stories have a happy ending.<\/p>\n
- An ideal mother: who is she?<\/a><\/li>\n
- And what awaits the child?<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n
- What is the danger behind constant anxiety for a child?<\/a>\n
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